I'm so glad you went to the doctor. AD's don't solve our problems, but they help to hang on to the next day.

Why do you think your H would a few days with not a word and then when he has bad news, he decides to call you? What's wrong with that picture?

What would he think if you did not respond to that message about the job? Remember, you want to do a 180 degree turn here. The old pattern was you consoling him....reassuring him that everything would be okay. So, do something different.

In the past, did he turn to you like this when he received bad new? I have a feeling both of you are repeaters of habits from years ago. My suggestion is to think it over carefully before you are so quick to contact him to comfort, rescue, reassure, or mother him.

I'm so sorry to see you torn apart like this.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!