Hi Sandi2 I have been to Docs and am taking anti-d. Usually I feel the are working fine, but sometimes I have dips in the way I feel. H hasn't really spoken to me much for a few days, then today he left me a message to tell me he might lose his job as his company is making cuts. Wanted to try and reassure him so tried to respond but to no avail. Later saw on fb he was "drowning his sorrows with a bottle of wine" and OW presumably. It got me really down that I broke down and started crying. The type of crying that hurts your eyes and head for hours after. Why? I know he is with her most of the time. Why do I still let it up set me. When I first joined this site and read other peoples stories I couldn't believe I could persevear (sp?) as long as a lot of the folk on this forum have, and yet here I am, nearly 4 months since I caught them together. It really is a rollercoaster. I hope I have the strength like dome of you guys to ride it till the end.