"I get the feeling that she doesn't allow me to have bad days, but I'm supposed to excuse certain actions from her as a "bad day." Yet, when I have a bad day she treats it as a huge incident."
Mind reading. It depends on how you approach her by saying you are having a bad day. Do you just blow up or do you tell her calmly that you need support? My C showed me how to do that and now when I feel like I'm going to go off on something, I tell her or I do the "I feel...when you..." It works.
They'll get defensive or raise their shields only when they feel they are being attacked.
Actually, it's what she told me. So no mind reading there. I understand my C suggest the "I'm upset..." approach. But there are certain things, she just doesn't want to hear.
Like if I said "I'm upset that you didn't give my any reassurance when I txted "I do love you" I should do that more, but the couple time I've done it it's been with mix results.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
