Can I Save My Marriage Part 2

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Stop talking to her friends to get information about her.

Seems like YOU need to kill your insecurities. Something you have to do on your own.

[John170]

i know jack thats part of going dark not allowing her to even know i exist

[John170]

dam i wish when she started asking about me i had of just stayed dark this may be over by now or at least id be further along.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

While you're wishing can you wish me up a pony too.

[John170]

i ask her why she never goes out or does anything with her friends , she says cause i dont wanna be a bad mother or a whore

[John170]

well she texted me today wanting to know what i would agree on as far as custody. what a great day there goes a lil more of my hope.

[John170]

thhink she is filing

[Jack_Three_Beans]

She might be, she might not be, but the rest of your day is going to be crappy because of what you think she might be doing.

Instead of your day being good/bad based upon what you are doing.

There is nothing here that works instantly.
It is time and consitency of your actions and frame of mind.

[John170]

just hard cause i think she is and it hurts

[Jack_Three_Beans]

John this crap will make you or break you.

Up to you.

Yes it is hard.

I am sorry for that, that and $3.50 will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks.

You 'think' she is and because of that you're in pain.

You don't know, she might very well be, but your entire day is now going to sukc because your worried what she might be doing.