I agree with Jack. You are no way ready for "more serious."

I would do a little dance with W to discover her intentions. She may be reconnecting. She may just need a touch and go. She may want to announce her move to tazmania. Who can guess? The "thank-you dinner" excuse is flimsy.

You are curious. I hear well-guarded hope.

If she is reconnecting (how have her R's been with the kids BTW?) it will be verrrry sloooooow. I doubt she will say "Let's reconcile now" even if that is her hope.

If this was 6 months ago, would you have accepted the invite? Why?

You cannot take into account the kids or the girlfriends until you decide whether or not you are open to reconciliation or not. What would a recon look like? A family dinner?

"STBXW, do you think you might be open to looking at a possible recon?"
If yes, you go. If IDK, you go. If "no way in h@ll, I just wanted to thank you." Say goodbye. Settle the issue. You are not standing, but moving on. If you get really involved w/someone and 6 months/a year from now you say, "Sorry chicka, but I didn't really close the door on my M and she wants to give it a go again". I know you are not that kind of guy.



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