Honestly,

I feel as I am in some weird limbo between DB and piecing. I just don't know what to do anymore.

1. My W says she wants to work on the marriage. No divorce or separation talk in over a month.
2. We have started MC. 2 great sessions then due to scheduling with the MC, we haven't had a session in about a month.
3. This are better, but still overall cr*ppy at times.
4. I have no idea where my wife is in relation to me. I don't know if she wants to stay married because she doesn't want our kids to have divorced parents or because she really cares for me, loves her family and thinks this is worth saving.
5. She said last night that she does think we can get to a good place, but there is a lot of stuff to work through.

However she is still withholding any intimacy - i.e. hugs, kisses, spooning, ILYs, etc. At times she is still distant and isolates herself just like before.
I tried to initiate some intimacy - a hug on Tuesday (good results) and a disaster last night.
She went upstairs to go to bed and I sent here a quick txt. Basically saying that I know things are hectic, but I will try to help her with that. Also I added that "I do love you." I debated for 5 mins sending that.
What do I get in return "Thanks, I know you do." WTF?? does that mean. I mean she couldn't even muster a return ILY. I'm still smarting over it.

I just want to know that she wants to save the marriage for us...not just because of the kids. I know yesterday was a bad day for her, but I don't get bad days.

Of course, this lead to a discussion of our future. Basically it was her saying that I need to be patient, there is a lot of stuff to work through, she does see a future together (what kind I don't know) and she can see us getting back to a more normal relationship.

Then she tosses in this she said I was "pretending' to be happy" a lot. What do I do with that?

Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
--Jean Jacques Rousseau.