Now you get to talk, open and honest communication, witout the intent to hurt, but to heal.
Communication, means talking AND listening.
Means R talks, not every night but maybe every other week as a measuring stick for awhile.
You cannot stifle your feelings either, you guys are rebuilding a marriage, you want the same one you both had or you both want to build one better?
One of you is going to have to keep a level head when you communicate, be the one to pull back before things get heated, when they do, ask if this is really where you both want to go, remind each other you both need to find new ways to talk and listen.
Talk about her thinking you were 'mean' no more assumptions anymore. Get to the bottom of it, there are 3 sides to every story, hers, yours and somewhere, hopefully close by the middle is the truth of the matter.
Find compromise.
Buddy,
You have no idea how hard this is, but then you also have no idea how awesome the reward is. My old marriage is dead, thank God. My new one with my wife? It rocks socks.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
