DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[Bolt]

hey mj, are you seeing any inklings of anything positive? They could be small but if you truly are changing they may be there but you aren't seeing them.

Don't make the mistake of expecting too much too soon too. That can undo all the progress that you have made.

The more I do DB (and DON'T follow the steps the way I should) the more I see how it works. Be that support and stay positive! The thing that helped get my W back just a bit was my positive reinforcement. The way she dresses, the way she looks, the good things she does, the way she helps around the house/kids, what happens at her work. Be TRULY into her - not as a pursuer but as a supporter.

Chances are, she hasn't seen you as a supporter in the past. She may show you positive returns if you continue this.

Dude, I KNOW this is hard. I think we have to take inventory of ourselves each day AND night. What I mean by that is looking over where you are in YOUR life. How do you feel about yourself. Then at the end of the day, reflect about how the day went. I'm sure you'll find some positive results in there somewhere.

Another big thing that helped my W was faith. No more than 2 months ago, she was talking to people who said things to her like, "You missed out on so many things", "You deserve better", "You didn't have fun like you should." She bought all that they were selling.

She has recently turned back to God and has realized those people were wrong. It was the "enemy" talking and not her heart. This has helped resurrect at least the hope of our R.

Maybe that is something that could help. Praying ALWAYS helps