What I KNOW after being HERE for 3 years.......

[Augtan]

Handling, I have dreams like that all the time and it has been over two years since XH left and 4 years since start of MLC! I know my XH is down and out and very tired of his life. He has no job, no family, no house of his own, lives like he is 21 again, etc.

I had several conversations with him yesterday due to issues with D18 and in one of them I told him "I am going to say this one last time, don't respond and take time to really think about it, but you are more than welcome to move up here (he lives 700 miles away from us), move into my condo, D18 and I will live at my parents (they are in Florida for 3 months and live 3 minutes from my condo), it will save you and us huge amounts of money each month and you have three HUGE reasons (our kids) to do it on top of that" He said "you're right I do". I quickly told him that his side jobs he has there can be found up here and ended the topic.

I am still moving forward, with the door open behind me as I walk down the hall, I refuse to put my life on hold any longer, but I would love for him to move up here for the kids, they need their Dad, and since he has come out of the tunnel to a certain degree, he has been a better Dad, as best he can be from 700 miles away and still in MLC. And, I could use some help, I am working full-time, going to school almost full-time and raising kids alone, it is tough, so any help XH could give would be great!

He won't move up here, he values his "friends" down there more than his kids, but he will always know that I was willing to help him and such. But, really I have my selfish reasons too, which is good for once, cause it use to be all about him and what I could do to "show him" and "please him"

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