I think it is good for the H and the W to have independent activities and are not in a co-dependent R. As long as she doesn't start acting secretive about her phone & emails. If she's open to let you see what's on the phone, then things are probably okay.

I see this almost everywhere I go. I think our society is completely obsessed with cell phones! And as for FB.....don't even get me started. Looking up old boy friends (or girl friends) only leads to trouble. I do not believe in couples having "friendships" with the opposite sex when it excludes the S.

If your W is contacting private friends of the opposite sex, then she probably wouldn't be too open for you to see her phone.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!