18 Years of Marriage - Leaving in June

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Hello,

I am going to try and get the whole story out.

My wife and I met in 1990, Married in 1992. Our son is now 13 and our daughter is now 10. I have been the US military for 19 years, I retire in one year and we are currently stationed in Germany.

Lats May my wife told me she was confused, did not think she loved me as a husband anymore, she was tired of being verbally mistreated for our entire marriage. Now I am not the only one to blame and I know this is true. She tells me that she has always tried to keep everyone else happy and never worried or thought about herself. Last May is when she finally decided to live for herslef.

Sowe started mariage counseling in August and since then things have rolled down hill. We also have both been seeing personal counseling for 6 years. Marriage counseling for me seemed to start off negative, yet we continued attending. Now it is January and 1 week and half ago she told me she is planning to leave in June. Because that is when the kids get out of school and it would be best for them. My son starts high school next year and daughter starts middle school. My wife wants to move to Texas because the person she thinks is her one true friend lives there. My wife has only spent 1 week of her life in Texas and that was when she visited her friend last summer. My son has told me he hates it there and my daughter seems to like whatever my wife likes. (i am not bitter of that, just a fact).

So my problem is that I now see my errors and truly have changed. Not sure if it took the final words from her to trigger that or not. But I see what I need to do.

Last night we went out with a friend of mine and his girlfriend whom my wife enjoys company. We were shooting pool while the girls chatted and watched. Seemed playfull and fun, we stayed for 2 and half hours or so then headed home. When we got home I told her I had a good time with her and she repsonded with "I am a good acctress". Now is that a cover for her having a good time and not wanting me to know?

Now granted I have only been working on my changes since last monday, today is thursday so that is 9 days of nice guy in her life. I know that is not enough to sway her future.

She says she cannot trust me to change and she does not want to spend the next 18 years of her life being where she was for the last 18.

Is there anything I can do?

HELP