On Figurative Ledge - Talk Me Down?

[FellOnBlackDays]

Denver,
Read my latest post and then get back in touch with me. Look, my W went 14 days with no contact recently. I was going mad, but I stood my ground. Last night she thanked me for giving the time she asked for and actually complimented me on how well I am taking the separation. That is the first time she has ever said anything like that. Be strong, buddy. Keep posting, keep coming here for support. I have cried ever day for the past week. Don't really know why because I was doing so well. There will be bad times. Hang in there.

Here is some advice. Sit down tonight and figure out a way that you could initiate contact without looking like you are fishing. Then, if you get a meeting, DB hard as you can. Heck, read some of the book right before you meet with her. Take one stiff drink and be calm. Then go show her the new man you are. I promise she will be intrigued. I know my wife is still very far from even considering coming home, but I also know that she went home thinking about me last night in a whole new light. You have to be different to make them second guess what they are doing. The same old you will elicit the same old response. I was completely blown away last night by what happened when I DB'd by the book. Do it for you so that you will know you tried your best. Now, pick yourself up, put on your DB hat and get that meeting. If my W and I had not met last night, we would have continued to play the same B/S mind games for weeks. We would have continued to hide behind emails and texts and taken pot shots at each other from the cover of an electronic wall. Take that wall down. It is much harder for her to fling crap at you in person. Email is easy as there is no eye contact. In two hours, I achieved a goal I set two months ago. I got my open line of communication. Now, I can show her what a new man I have become. Sure, I have a long way to go, I am scared and I know that there is still a greater than 50% chance my marriage is over. But, the only shot you will always miss is the one you don't take. Go, get that meeting and show her that you are worth her time. Good luck and godspeed!

FOBD