H's MLC - finding compassion and forgiveness

[Mila]

Thank you so much CW, Twink, Beatrice, Kissak, Snodderly & Brooklyn

Your advice and opinions are invaluable and you all deal with your own hard situations and I really appreciate you taking the time to post to me....it's been such a hard road and you all make it more bearable for me. Love you all.

I feel caught in circumstances, that's why it's so hard for me to completely drop the rope, it would be so much easier not to have to deal with H at all, but I don't have the luxury right now.

We are still in business together and I have no choice but to interact with my horrible MLCr on friendly bases...the business is still my and D's livelihood and I just have to continue working with him for the time being.

As for H's sister & family staying at my house...I should maybe explain better what it is all about...they are not coming for a vacation, she is coming to see her dad, my FIL, who has cancer and the prognosis is not good, he may only have few months left. The family is coming to say goodbye to him in a sense...I love my FIL dearly and would do anything for him...if I let H's family stay with me it will be for for my FIL...

I've been really struggling with this but I have to stay true to myself and even though it will be incredibly difficult to have them here and have H hanging around my house, I would feel even worse if I said no under the circumstances. I definitely would not let them stay with me to please H, who cares what he wants, I would want to do it for my FIL. His townhome is not big enough to house them all, my H's place is tiny and I have this huge house...I can somehow survive it for 10 days...

I will talk with H and set some ground rules (like no OW anywhere near here)and if he agrees to my terms I will do it....for my FIL and for my soul...and I'll make sure H understands this....