Do you want to stay in the house? I did, and have...but my wife didn't even care, so she didn't fight me for it. If it's important to you and you can afford it, then stand your ground and stay as long as possible. She can't throw you out so DON'T let her bully you.
As far as deciding whether to move on or keep fighting...You have to decide that for yourself. No matter the outcome, I love my wife and cherished our relationship...so I wanted to do absolutely everything to turn our situation around, knowing that if it ended, I would have no regrets about the effort I put forth.
Aside from that, I think you're on track by focusing on yourself. Use this time to stop the behavior that she didn't like, and improve upon other things about yourself that you think would make you a better person. And do all this for YOU, not for her. If your marriage has to end, you want to be the best guy you can be when you decide you're ready to get into the market again.
She's the messed up one here, so don't let her suck you in with her negativity. Stay positive, hopeful, and show her the strength her husband has by providing strong, positive leadership. Be a man...a good man...and it will only help you in the long run.
M: 29, W: 28 Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09) Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10 Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010 Separated 5/22/10 - Present Affair exposed 7/7/10 No children
