To detach is to separate myself from the actions, emotions, and words of my W.
To protect my own emotional well being.
To protect myself from hurt.
To build a wall is to put up a shield against the actions, emotions, and words of someone who can hurt you emotionally.
To build a wall is to separate yourself from the feelings of others.
To put something you and the rest of the world.
At some point in my life I put a wall bw myself and the world... to protect myself... from being hurt like I had been....
Building this wall also means that you are unable to receive love from others
Bc you are not open to it... you cannot put your heart "out there"...
I've done this in my life...
And I think that it prevented me from receiving love and being open to love from my W...
W never knew me without this wall.
W shattered this wall when she told me that she was no longer in love with me and was leaving our home.
Now, the advice is to 'detach' from my W's actions, words, and emotions.
What is the difference?
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
