Yes Barb she is but I do love her. It's complicated but I am waiting to see what happens with us.
I actually broke up with her when I realized that her problems would come between us but we keep coming back to each other. I am taking it slow with her and most of our differences have been resolved. A rebound relationship is not always a bad thing and it can blossom into something more.
As terrible as this sounds, I look at my GF and wish that my XW was as loving and caring as she is. I would still be married. It's like you said though, some people do not know how to love. Like you I was blinded by my own love for my wife. I am smarter now, although you would not know it from some of my actions these past 12 months.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me