Sweetie, you did nothing wrong. You were honest about how you felt. That is never wrong. Your h turned it all around on you.
I think Beatrice (and Snodderly) are completely right. I like the idea of the letter to them. If it doesnt feel right to have them there, then don't. It may be his house, but its your home right now. He chose to leave it.
Mila, we all take different things from dbing. But the most important thing I think is to let your h go. Really and truly and completely. Once you do that, you let go of the fear.
Put your h and your marriage in a box and store it safely on a shelf.
Now, you said how you feel. Good for you. He heard you, right? As much as an MLCer can. No need to say it all again and please dont beat yourself up for it.
It's now time to get out of the way of his MLC. He needs to walk his path on his own.
