Mila, I think you need to address the issue of your inlaws' visit now. I don't think it's their idea to come stay w/you...I think your h is the one that came up w/that idea. Second, your home is not the Holiday Inn and if they are only coming to see you in order to have a place to stay, well, your h should be the one to have them either stay w/him or he put them up in a hotel.
I think it would be a very uncomfortable situation and I sure as heck wouldn't want him coming over all of the time to visit and maybe bring the ow as well. You would be the hotel, cafeteria, maid and have the laundry detail. Nope...I wouldn't do it.
It's time to think about you and what you want...it's your home now and he needs to face the consequences of his actions.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
