When a W's complaining gets to incessantly "you always", "you never", ... It's like a one- way switch has been set in their brain. And it's hard to take this sort of negativity on the chin day in and day out, without disagreeing or feeling the pain of it. I faced the same problem and chose to do nothing simply because I didn't know what the hell to do. Kalni seems to think this is not a big deal but I think it is - the W's brain has chemically crystalized in some irreversible way. I'd now say something strong needs to be done; wish I knew what exactly would flip that switch.
