That work trip, I'm assuming he cannot unattend it and remain in good graces with his company.
That is pretty much going to happen.
You're going to make yourself sick worrying about it and what he is doing, or what you think he is doing.
Is he going to see her? It would be naive not to think so.
His drinking, it is a problem, at least you believe it is, by that I mean we LBS tend to read alot in tea leaves and usually see the worst.
Is he an alcoholic, or just drinking a little more than usual? Unable to approach him about it, he isn't going to see a problem until he sees it as a problem. I'm pretty sure there are some books out there that might help you deal or guide you in how to approach him maybe an Al-Anon program you can check out?
The serious talks...if something isn't working for you change your approach. Change tactics unti you find something that does work.
Have you checked out DR yet? Has anything in the book clicked with you?
As for the trip, and this is not something I usually suggest, but if you pack his bags, or have access to them, just a little note. A little note. Nothing deep, nothing serious, nothing about worrying about him meeting her, just a litle note from you to him hoping he has a good trip. A note he can see when he unpacks.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
