It's a personal gmail account - how would that get full unless he got spammed?
I agree, he's starting to look like a scam of some sort. I think I got lulled into a false sense of comfort by our video chats - I mean, I was talking to him in real time, could see that his apartment was clearly a single guy's apartment and could see his childhood bedroom when he was at his folks for Xmas - so those parts of the story checked out.
But I totally agree with you about meeting people IRL sooner rather than later. I bent that rule with him because for a long time I didn't actually think it would be a good idea to meet him at all. Never again.
"Well, I can't imagine what would happen to a gmail account... could be a server error or a GF may have made him close it. Who knows."
I doubt a server error - I tried a couple of different times throughout the day.
A GF making him close it is a definite possibility I considered - although I have watched carefully for clues of such and must say, I never saw any. Still, it would be a high-probability event I guess.
You're such a good friend, OT- I will watch for your email I have actually sent a couple of guys to my girlfriends, that I saw online and thought would be a match.
Ellie: I can't understand why you would be interested in a 27 year old. He is nowhere near your level of maturity. He sounds like a flake - not untypical of many his age on a dating site.
I am the same age as you and have 2 sons - 28 & and 31 - I think they'd freak if I was dating someone their age. Have you told your kids? Not that it is really their business but I just think they'd be uncomfortable.
I know it is not by business but I have met you and I believe you are strong, intelligent and beautiful. I think it would take a really experienced, distinguished and worldly man to live up to you. Why waste your time worrying about why a kid didn't get back to you.
kml, I just got the book in the mail today. It's called, The Boomer's Guide to Online Dating by Judsen Culbreth.
I've got an adorable 33 year old chasing me, but luckily he lives in Texas otherwise I might be tempted. I really, really want to find that amazing man to compliment me....I will.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Barb - no, I really am not interested in dating 27 year olds, this guy was SO funny and SO smart and SO clever and SO cute, I started to think maybe I would make a brief exception for him.
But of course I wouldn't be able to introduce him to my family or friends and I DO think it's kinda creepy - ok, very creepy. Just trust me when I say, there was just something about HIM that made it almost seem plausible to have a fling - I would LOVE to meet a guy like him but 20 years older. I did keep thinking about Harold and Maude, lol.
OT - I did get your email. Haven't had time to read closely, but guy #1 lists Klingon as a second language, and guy #2 quotes William Shatner........not that I don't love Star Trek, but they may be a little too nerdy even for me if they feature that prominently in their profiles.
Ok, I just thought it was strange and so out of character for you. A fling is one thing - but you had written that you were looking for more (I thought) and sure didn't think someone so much less mature than you would ever fit the bill.
I remember having a pretty good idea of what I was looking for and younger wasn't it. But younger is what I got. I figured I wanted someone with kids so they'd understand my life better. But nope - got someone without kids. And I figured I wanted someone to be about my intellectual equal but no - I got someone much more educated than myself. The key - he doesn't flaunt it and I can beat him at Scrabble. He also tells me that education and intelligence are 2 very different things.
The thing is - in my humble opinion - you have to meet people to understand them in a 3 dimensional way. There is far more to anyone that any dating site can possibly tell you. You know the old adage "you have to date a lot of frogs in order to meet your prince". Well - I think that is true.
I think the dating sites are merely ways of finding possibilities but I have to agree - the sooner you meet them in real life - the better - as emailing can create a false sense of who they really are.
Well, nothing wrong at all with a little Klingon (though I agree the whole point of mentioning it is to advertise one's geekiness), but I thought the angel pic was just weird. I was mainly just doing a quick look for apparently smart and active and over 40. The doc is either arrogant or funny, hard to say. I'd be most put off by his username if anything. Combine his username, his favorite sex scene, and him wanting a woman to be strong enough to email him, I start to think he's a bit too non-alpha for me, though I certainly also see that I could be misreading that.
Anyway, I totally agree with Barb -- it is too easy to write off people online because they don't square with the checklist in your head. Cast your net widely... Include the "eh, maybes." It can't hurt anything and you just might turn up someone unexpected. It certainly isn't worth being picky among people you haven't and most likely won't meet. For one thing, it takes too much energy and time. For another, it needlessly limits your possibilities.
I have actually sent a couple of guys to my girlfriends, that I saw online and thought would be a match.