Having a really hard time...

[what next?]

She sent me a long email about the process today. I'm positive that she did this because she knows that I'm trying to enjoy myself this week.

she said:

Hey, my lawyer is working on a decree with the split of assets, etc. I know you think it's unlikely you'd be able to take over the mortgage but that aside, would you prefer to get the house? The lawyer said if you do, you might start with Flagstar Bank where we have the mortgage & check if you can assume the loan in your name & remove me.

Also, she said you should start taking on your bills like cell phone. Assuming it would help, I can pull together a list with amount/due date and scan the bill if I have a copy.

I'm tracking down a couple questions (like IRS treatment of the house credit in divorce) for the lawyer, too.

As far as the process: my lawyer said once I've signed off on what she puts together, we'll send to you to sign off (we have to sign in front of a notary) then it's just a matter of going to court. It would be an afternoon - she'll call the court clerk & see how many cases there are for the day & if it's not many, we can go. Then we'll have a certain amount of time to take care of details based on who gets what (including stuff like changing insurance, closing or changing names on accounts & bills, etc).

Once I have stuff pinned down with the lawyer, I'll talk to you about it before I send to you. Just keeping you in the loop. I don't think it should take very long depending on tracking down information & if you have any issues. Let me know if you have questions or specific requests. I know you'd like it to be done quickly.

I have your mail from the past week or two. Do you know when Trina gets back? Or, I could leave it on the front porch for you to get.

Hope you're enjoying the Chili Bowl!


...how do i respond to this?