I just had a nasty exchange with my XH and am so sick of all this crap. We have huge issues with D18, she lives with him right now, but is moving back up here with me, she is a teenage pain in the a**, I love her to death, but she has had issues with anxiety, ADD, being what I think is just lazy and so on...She has been to many, many Dr's both here and there and seems to get no releif when it comes to things she doesn't want to do, but when she wants to do something the problems disappear making it hard to believe they were real in the first place...Anyway, she is stuck down there due to snowstorm and just today can make it up here, so the plan is for her to leave tomorrow, but now she doesn't want to come and is having anxiety...blah, blah, blah..XH calls me and I am just so distraught about so many things so I start saying things like "I didn't ask for this (to raise three kids completely alone), I didn't chose this (to live like we do, which really [censored]!), I am in school almost full-time, work full time, have the kids full time with no break, I just can't take much more, I can't have D18 come up here and cause nothing but problems and anxiety for me and the other two kids" XH says "I don't want to hear all this again, I don't want to hear how you didn't chose this and that you blame me for everything, I have heard it a million times how you didn't chose this or that, you just say all of it to make me feel guilty and I don't want to hear it"
I was just speechless, cause honestly, he deserves to hear it each and every day, cause he is the cause of all of it, he did chose it and he made it all happen, I didn't want a D, I didn't leave, I didn't cheat, but me and the kids are the only ones with consequences to all he did and chose for us. I just said "f**k you, you have no clue what I go thru each day, I am sick of it" He said something about not wanting or having to hear it and hung up!!
I AM DONE!! He says he has heard it a million times, but really he hasn't!! I have kept it all in check and not shared so many things and problems with him regarding the kids, finances, downsizing to a small condo, the company my family owns and all it's problems, etc. I have treated him with kid gloves and sheltered him and now he says that I have laid the guilt on him a million times and he shouldn't have to hear it!! Who else should have to hear it?
I am just venting here, I am so upset and don't know what to do!! I truly can't take much more, I am so good to that man and he can't listen to me vent for 5 minutes? I told him D18 can just stay there and not graduate HS and he can do as he sees fit, I have to get some tough love with her. But, I really want D18 up here away from him, and so I don't have to have contact with him at all!!
HELP!!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
