Hi, I have been workng the suggestions Sandy had posted for me ealier last month. Doing 180's, staying cheerful, avoiding r talks, GAL, etc. Things have gotten better but I am still obsessed and concerned he is in contact with the ow he was talking with online. She lives in the DC area and they only met at a work funtion last year and started chatting via facebook back in october, he swears it never got any futher than talking online and emails. Once I found out things fell apart and he agreed to stop contact but started talking about possible seperation, not feeling the same about me etc. He even defended her saying things like "she doesn't want to interfer in his marriage". He has a work trip coming up in two weeks to DC and I am scared to death that he is going to meet up with her...what should I do? Also he is drinking so much lately to deal with his stress and it is concerning. If I confront him he will be angry and very defensive, any serious talks with him at this point freak him out and he pulls away. Any advice?
