Can I Save My Marriage Part 2

[ScaredinCanada]

John,

My W has said the exact same things. We got together so young, and we didn't really know who we were. Our sitch basically defaulted us into getting married. We aren't compatible, we don't like the same things, we have different dreams, we never should have gotten married.

My favorite is when she says "I only married you because I was guilty that I cheated on you when we were engaged." LOL - Seriously? We then moved in together for a year before planning to get married again, we then had 2 children and moved to her dream town and had a third child. Ya, the last 8 years have been a mess! lol

Seriously I believe like people say "they are in a fog", I actually told my W she was like living with a zombie!

They all say the same things, my W tells me she doesn't love me anymore and that she believes she's never loved me, all I do is annoy her.

Whatever makes her feel better about the direction she's headed right?

John, ignore (or seriously doubt) anything they say and only believe %50 of their actions.

Detaching is the word, I'm on Day 4 and I feel great. Keep reminding yourself of the "game plan" so to speak.

I'm becoming the new me regardless of her, if she comes around I'll be guarded and I'll do what's best for me - without the emotion behind it.

You can do it!