If you've been in MC for 8 years it's time to 'DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT". Seriously. Have you looked at alternatives to MC? Seems like your W has an emotional void that she's trying to fill externally because she feels she can't get it from you for some reason. That's why she had the A.
Does she go to IC?
Only you know the reason why you stay around. It could be fear, love, faith, pride, or a little of everything. The point is that the reason doesn't matter. What matters is if you decide to stay around, then you do your best to keep trying. At least you could say you honestly tried.
I think we all think that from time to time.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.