Okay great, either DR or DB is fine. I read both but I think DR is slightly better organized? Been a while since I read them.

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Try to stop worrying about what she is thinking or feeling. The only way you can save your R now is by working on yourself. Based on your description, I see a lot of encouraging signs that all hope is not lost. The fact that she is trying not to hurt you and feels guilty means that there is some warmth running through her still and she is not completely cold and cut off. That is a much better place to start than many find themselves in.

Start with the DBing basics. Mainly, stop pursuing and pressuring. GAL. Stay positive.

Alongside that, dig deeper into yourself using the resources suggested, and see if you can work on some long term changes in yourself. KEY: They must be for you. They must be real, and not just to fool her.

Keep journaling here and stay with us, dont let your thread fade into obscurity. It isnt over until YOU give up.

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Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A