You have been together for 18 years. She isn't going to believe that your current changes are going to last, that is why it is so important that they do.
Provision about those changes.
As long as you are making them for you, because you want to be this 'better' person.
Making those changes soley for her? She is right to think its a trap.
As long as you are doing this for you, then you're doing well, but you cannot fault her for not believing in them. I'd suggest not bringing up your changes either, as in:
"Look how much I have changed!"
Prove it to her.
When you backslide? Yeah man, you are only human...but remove that from your vocabulary and do better.
Your attitude and talking about yourself mostly and not her?
Refreshing.
: )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
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