Okay, Crisis averted. a few things. 1. I was very calm and pleasant when I got home tonight. I try to be like that most times because for one I'm really starting to enjoy her company as my best friend. 2. I know my emotions are working in overdrive, but I was able to regain a sense of calm as I drove home tonight. 3. I could see why she would withhold the information because of my reaction. In fact when she told me about the meeting I was pretty calm, but she could see a reaction on my face. 4. Okay maybe I haven't presented things well. I didn't just start yelling when I was mad, but I did yell. I've learned, through my IC, how to approach my W when I have an issue. I talk to her in a soft low voice, as you suggest, and start with the phrase "I'm upset..(or something to that effect).
The kids are actually doing very well. Of course as I type this my 4YO is asleep next to me on the couch with a nasty cold and my 15 month old, just got stitches for a deep gash he had near his eye. :-) We don't argue in front of them (we agreed to that early on). This is one area I feel that is going close to perfect. we feel that we are complete partners in raising our boys. We are able to work together very well.
Okay, so I was having an emotional moment when I posted what I did. I was driving home and thinking about the physical intimacy component. Then I remembered someone here saying the rules for piecing are different. So I decided that I was going to give her a hug when I got home. Why? because I wanted to. So I did and she gave me a hug back. She said "what was that for?" 'I just said "because I wanted to." After I let go, honestly, she seemed a little giddy. I know that it's not super important, but I haven't seen that side of her for a while.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
