Antonia, I'm reading your post about the restaurant incident with interest...it reminds me of the changes in myself that I'm experiencing. It seems to me like if I was living in a cocoon while I was married...same as you, never started conversations with strangers, didn't do any fun things on my own only with H or D...what has happened has made me realize that I didn't know how to be an individual anymore...I was always attached to H or D...or our married friends...didn't even have any really close GF of my own...H was my best friend.

In the last year I have certainly learned how to go outside my comfort zone, make new friends, go to a movie on my own, or to a restaurant and try new activities...and talk to strangers and talk to single men wink....this is the benefit of what has happened in our marriages...it's so good for us to rediscover who we really are...

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO