I don't ask the money question to be cynical, I'm sure the connection part is real. My perspective is that people often ignore the 400 pound gorilla.
If money is important to her, youth is important to her, these things may be about her image or her life as she dreamed it would be. Waiting for someone to snap out of an MLC isn't always the best strategy...MEET THAT NEED of hers. That makes you the more attractive option. As sandi2 describes well, when you are the more attractive option, THAT'S WHEN you have are in a good place to set boundaries while growing your relationship. (That's what we call piecing--the growing, starting over part.)
So if there is something you can do to improve your job situation, your income, your fun or coolness level (according to HER view), you will be in a place of greater strength.
