It looks so bleak II

[MrBond]

There are legal aid agencies that can help advise you. At the very least know your rights. Are you willing to pay for the other guy's kid even when the two of you are separated?

"She and i share the same desire.
Of course they want that. But let's face reality here. What signs have you had that your W cares? Is she keeping the baby?

As a fellow father, you should start setting an example for your kids of what a strong husband is. If you let your W go around and do whatever she wants to without consequence they will do the same with their H's. That's also what my C has stated.

How often do you see your kids? I mean it sounds like you were pretty dark without any interaction with your W, so how do you actually co-parent your kids or have you left it all to her? What kind of actual parenting have you done? Helping with schoolwork, etc.