thanks for the response, it's much appreciated. I haven't read DB but I'm waiting for my copy of DR to come. It seemed more appropriate since I'll be the only one reading it. I have gone over everything I can on the website, blog, facebook, forums etc.
I am willing to stick it out here. Once I'm moved I'm going to have a lot more free time on my hands so I may as well use it productively. There's a little voice in my head that tells me to go hide under a blanket for a very long time but I know that won't solve a damn thing. I know that I need to change. I've recognized things in me that I don't really like and think that I'm finally able to take the steps to change them. I'm sincerelely hoping that things don't end up the same. At this point different would be wonderful.