What you really want her to do is to get OM completely out of her mind. That is the truth, isn't it? But since you have no control over what she thinks, then you will do the next thing you believe you can control.....any lingering memories hanging around.....like on the computer.
If she's not accessing the secret account then why put pressure on her like that? I understand that just the thought of his picture and emails somewhere on that computer is driving you mad. But, you are going to keep on pushing until you are going to push her right out the door. Is that what you want to do?
I'm not going to tell you she never thinks of him. In fact, every time you act like a jerk it could cause her to wonder what things might have been with OM. But, you don't control her mind and you've got to turn lose of that or you....YOU will end up breaking this M apart.
As I've told you before, there are some things that you MUST let her work through without interference from you. Nobody wishes things could be automatically shut off as much as the WAW who has been in an EA. It would be soooo much easier for her to just jump right back into the MR and pick up where she left off.
You are right, it is HARD! If it was not worth much, then it would not require much work. But I wonder if you realize that it is hard for her, too?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
