Am I piecing? Just can't tell 2...

[Sad_but_happy]

Been trying to write less and read more. Just sooo hard to continue this even though we STILL go to bed together, kisses hello and goodbye have moved from cheek to lips, we are still talking about future, etc...

Here's my NEW hang up that has not been resolved. While trying to give W space I did not talk of R or bring up OM as DB states. In fact I am afraid to bring up OM cause if I don't bring it up to W it feels like he me not be in her thoughts even though I know she must still think about him.

Sooooo now that I'm piecing I have the following delima. While she was with OM she had a secret email address that I confronted her on. I see NO evidence that she has accessed it in the past 70-80 days. Not on her phone or on the computer. Nothing at all. But I want him erased from our/her lives. Is it appropriate at this point to ask her to delete all emails, pics, notes from OM and get rid of the secret email account? It's not really secret cause she knows I know but is it to early to ask her to get rid of it even if she has not accessed it?

If I can't delete the account I want her to delete everything from the in box, then delete everything in the deleted folder and then let me change the password so it can never be accessed again. I will discuss so I'm not TELLING her to do it but letting her kow it's something I need to move forward.

Any thoughts?