That is what is scaring me. The legal stuff. See H's lawyer told my lawyer that if I didn't turn in a proposal by the 15th she was going to have a Master appointed because of us being separated over 2 years and he had filed for the no-fault D back then. I did contest it but like my lawyer told me if I don't do the proposal and she gets a Master appointed it was going to be over $3000.00 a piece for each of us (and that's like saying I need 3 million), just for a Master to say it's over or say more time will be granted to try and reconcile.
H's lawyer has no clue to what H is all about and of course what he is going through and also doesn't understand his learning comprehension problems. He lost his other lawyer and he has only had this one for about 2 months.
So I had to get all of the bills that are in both of our names together and the balances and who paid how much on each one etc. and send it to my lawyer so he could put a proposal through in time before H's lawyer had a Master appointed.
My lawyer told me he would love for us to reconcile but he believes someone is influencing H big time (which I know is his family).
I was thrilled when H said he didn't know what he wanted and has stated this to me a few times during our S but then a few days later he says it's for the best for us just to move on. But this time was different. I just couldn't believe it. H does have to have his lawyer do something to put this D on hold but I don't know if he will or not. I haven't heard from him since Thursday, when we were texting.
I'm also still up in the air as far as his family. I know and really think it would be easier on H if we all got along and I have no problem with that even though they hurt me and I can honestly say I did nothing to them. It was H that told them off and didn't speak to them for all of those years, and yes it was because he stuck up for my S that was only 3 or 4 years old at the time. But I never said a word to them or H about it. I just told him after all that was said and done that I was hurt by what SIL and MIL said about H adopting S and that was it. He didn't speak to them and of course I stood by his side and made no effort back then because H didn't want anything to do with them.
Now that he has made amends with them he wants (I think) for everyone to get along, but God only knows what he told them.....why he left, and so on. They don't even believe in depression and are enabling him with the drinking big time. Any suggestions on whether I should go talk to them and what the heck would I say even if they let me past the door? I'm tired of people not getting along etc., but we aren't even piecing so I don't know why H would want me to contact them. So it's not like I can go to them and say "Hi, I'm sorry if I have ever offended you and would like to apologize if I did because H and I would like to start working on our M and would love your support. Do I make the move to be the bigger person? UGH! So confused.
I've seen MIL and SIL in action the first few years of M. They are very mean and evil people. They never liked any of H's gfs or his brothers' gfs or wives. They would act nice or sometimes even a little rude and then as soon as one H's brothers would leave they would say horrible things about the women and I'm sure they still do.
