DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[ScaredinCanada]

SIC and habitacker, I've been following this thread and can offer big words of encouragement. I've been pursuing so hard since the bomb and was getting basically nowhere. I've let the foot off the pedal and have gotten very positive results.

I think it's a fine line. Become the person she wants to be married to IF you are good with being that person. She doesn't necessarily want to change you but to return you to where you were.

I was selfish, self-serving and didn't know it. The bomb opened my eyes.

Now instead of pursuing (which is KILLING me not to do), I've given her space and been very respectful and attentive. The rewards are slow but more than I can imagine.

Who knew that her simply rolling over in bed and putting her arm around me would mean so much?

Just keep it up - it will be worth it!

Thanks Bolt. I appreciate the kind words. Like I said, I'm on day #3 od being "removed from my emotions" and it feels good. I also feel like I'm going to stick with it for sometime now - no setbacks!!

As I also said before the fact that she slow danced with me at my brothers wedding was the highlight of my last 2 months - it's incredible how much I miss the physical connection to her. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, cuddling, smacking her butt, or ML.

Thanks again for the encouragement! Greatly appreciated.

What's your story, have you posted?