I am seeing some small improvements in the relationship so it is positive. Most importantly, my wife has acknowledged the changes that I have made. I just need to keep doing them and at some point she may come back around.
Regarding GAL, it looks like my wife maybe taking the same approach. She is now focusing on working out, taking music lessons and taking an evening course. Not sure what this means in terms of the relationship if we are both doing the GAL plan.
Maybe another sign that she is staying around and this is her way of coping with the current situation. I would be interested in hearing from anyone with respect to how long it was that they DB'd until their wife came around and made a committment to work on the marriage.
I don't see alot of success stories on this board, so it maybe that most LBS simply run out of gas and pull the plug because they cannot keep up the effort and receive nothing in return. I recall reading something in a marriage book where one of the suggestions was to spend an entire month where the focus of everything you do is on your spouse. The author tried this and indicated that at the end of the month she was absolutely exhausted from the constant effort and focus. I can't imagine what her comment would be if she had to do it for a year or more like those of us who are tying to save our marriages.
