I thought I should add one more thing. (First I have to laugh at Sad_but_happy's line about thinking our H's would be creeps if we were to meet them now. How true!! That describes it perfectly. Another thing I have been doing, and maybe this is beyond DB'ing is I have been researching what I would need to do if the M doesn't work. That is not what I want, but it did give me comfort to have a plan either way. Part of my anxiety before was not knowing what I would do without H. So while I want to stay M, I feel like with my GAL and and my plan "just in case" I've got more confidence. Obviously H doesn't know about this plan. I even have a place to live on hold (My sister was going to sell her house but is renting it instead, in case I want to buy it in the future) It also made me realize that in reality, H has more to lose that I do; hopefully he realizes that!
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
