Let's just dispense with the BS. There's no soft way to put this, yes, she is going to hate you. Remember, though, feelings are fleeting and ever changing.
Let me tell you a story. My uncle, who is fairly close in age to me and was raised with me became involved with a woman who was into crack. He was obsessed with this woman and would do anything he could to gain her love and acceptance. Though he never engaged in drugs in his younger years, he suddenly got himself addicted to crack. IT WAS BAD. He lost his girlfriend, lost his job, became verbally and physically abusive, lost most of his family and it was as bad as it could be. He, too, managed to get his car repo'd. My mother (his sister) did everything she could to help him. Unfortunately, all her efforts were met with hatred. Suddenly, my mother was to blame for everything.
Well my uncle got some help and thankfully recovered. You know what? My mom and uncle became the best of friends. He became extremely protective of her and even went so far to knock out some guy who had hurt my mom (not that I condone that).
I merely point this out because when they do come out of these addictions, they are smart and they know who truly stood by them. There were others in the family who didn't condemn him but still kept their distance. He didn't run back to them. He ran back to my mom who stood for him, their relationship as brother and sister and his recovery.
Tank, you MUST do what is right and I am just so proud of you and everything that you have done because you continue to do what is right. I wish that I had just 50% of the strength that you have as I know this is so painful for you. Continue to lean on your family and your Church. Continue to talk here because it is safe and no one judges us or knows who we are. It makes it much easier to be completely truthful. Continue to rebuild your life as it is right now. And remember, THERE IS HOPE. There is hope for so much in your life and there is hope for your R.
