H's MLC - finding compassion and forgiveness

[ericmsant2]

Mila

Sorry I have not been around much lately.

but right now at least I want to stay friendly with him....at least until the SA is signed

The one thing that I have begun to really understand when you are going through the D process is that trying to stay friendly will work as long as YOU agree with everything THEY say and want. Be careful Mila. I agree to try and do this as nice as possible, just expect that nice to him may be HIS way.

However I was ticked off by his requests today and didn't reply in my usual friendly manner

I still say why reply at all. Look Mila, he is a big boy and you are not his mother. He needs something let him figure it out.

Eric - now that you are dating you have better things to do than drive my car

It is BECAUSE I am dating that I need the car. I just may have to hand in the Jeep after the alimony payments  - hence I need wheels.

Should I give him a gift? I'm thinking not...he didn't give me one for my B-Day..

Seriously Mila….do what you want to do. Expect nothing. But do not, NOT do something because of HIS actions. That would not be being true to Mila.

I hope that he doesn't expect me to bake him his favorite b-day cake

Well if ya do want to bake a cake you can always mail it me….I live at……. (ha fool ya Mod…I bet ya thought I was gonna post my addy- ha!)

More popcorn anyone

Covered with Caramel please.

To be fair, I have withdrawn bit as well, just being very matter of fact,

IMO, that is the way ya have to be.

Next, why don't 'the business' buy you a Rolex for your years of dedication and service, as you are moving on to bigger and better things. There will be an invoice next month under 'business expense'. No, I'm not kidding. Why should they be the only ones to profit from their perfidity?

I agree with Punkin on this one ^^^^. Now IF I were you I would let him know that he will see several thousand dollar charges on the business for 1) trip to Paris – FOR 2, 2) male escort 3) rolex watch 4) trip to Spain – for 2 and finally, you always wanted a new Mercedes convertible so add that in.

to an art show where D's work was featured, she won an award BTW :),

Congrat to D.

and there was one piece of art that was about depression...H seemed to be really taken by the narrative when the artist was explaining about depression...I wonder if he ever realizes that's what he is dealing with...

Mila, who gives a rats as* if he realizes it – I mean really – Mila, please stop making excuses for him.

God Bless,
Eric