I agree 100% with your stance. If OP is involved then IMO, reconciliation is really not possible. I say this from the perspective of a "traditional M".
It is one thing to allow the MLCer the time to "grieve" or "get over" the OP. It is something completely different to try and reconcile while the MLCer is in the midst of a R with OP.
Just my 2 cents.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
