Hi John! - I know it is hard. But there is no overnight fix or even 3 month fix to turn your M around. You really need to detach. I was just like you - focused on my H every second of every day because I was afraid of losing him, my M. Focusing on her is not going to bring her back. Take time for you right now; that was the very BEST advice I have received here and my H left Xmas Eve of 2009. Take time for YOU.
Can you do that?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
I know what I gotta do as long as I allow her to she is going to do things for no other reason but to drive me crazy. Has anyone in here ever been competely hopeless and thing turned around when u thought it was completely over
sandi i know i have to. just when i go a week without contacting her she starts asking if anyone has heard from me. may or may not mean anything but then i start backsliding.
Second day of going dark actually getting easier this way believe it or not> her friend text me this morning and asked if id talked to my wife i proudly said nope. She then said y'all just need to go your separate ways and that she isn't seeing anyone but she just isn't happy and is done. i said ok thanks and ended it at that
Dont know why but today i despise her and want nutten to do with her. Tommorrow it may be different but i am staying dark so ill vent on here instead to to her or her friends that try to lure me into saying something.
