What happens to the WAS after D?

[ClingingToHope]

The one thing so far my WAW admitted to is that the finances are harder than she thought. That was September 2009. Last year, the house didn't sell. She's behind on payments. I don't think she's regretting the breakup though. She's always always searching for things to make her happy and reasons she's not. The house is now the reason she's not happy. If she could just sell it, then she'd be happy ...

In the end, the adults adjust, I think, to the lower standard of living. The long-term pain falls on the children. Mine are accepting a lot of things they could do before without question are now out of the question.

They won't realize until later when it comes to college how much this has hurt them. Both of my girls were on track to have $30,000-$40,000 for college by 18. Not enough to pay for everthing, but enough that they could go where they wanted.

Now? D11 is at $10,000 and D8 is at $7,500 and I'm really hoping to somehow get those savings up to $15,000 each when college comes around. Both are likely to have to go to junior college first.