Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[Denver_2010]

MJ - This isn't about giving up. This is about being realistic about your situation as it is RIGHT NOW. Not one minute in the past, not one minute in the future, RIGHT THIS INSTANT. And that reality for you and I my friend, is that our W's do not want to be married to us. That is the reality right this instant. Can that change? Yes it can. This is where we find hope. Your W used to be in love with you and she obviously changed her mind. What that means is that she is capable of changing her mind back. Again, we find hope here. But we have to accept reality as it is in the present moment.

So, what we HAVE to do after accepting that reality, is try to find away to accept that and find happiness for ourselves. How do we do that? Detach from that which makes us unhappy... our W's current actions, and GAL. Also, we look at the present moment reality and decide whether or not we want to take it as an opportunity for personal growth. This is all we can do MJ. We cannot control our W's, their choices, their feelings, or their actions. So we need to leave them alone with the consequences of those choices, feelings, and actions, and HOPE that they begin to see us in a new light and change their minds on the demise of our Ms.

Trust me MJ, I know that this does not sound encouraging. I wish that there was some magic potion that we could all use on our W/H's to fix our situations. There just isn't and we both need to come to terms with that. We practice DB ideas and hope and/or pray for a good outcome.