Anger. Yep. Been there. Likely will end up back for brief periods in time ... it's one of the stages.
I can sit here and write a post about how we all get angry and we need to feel it and process it and move past it. Y'all know that crap already. So I'll save you the read.
Anger won't serve you long term. Neither will making decisions because your S did something TO you. This is the worse side of the worse in the "for better or worse". You thought it was hard up till now?
I'm not saying you should or should not be angry. Nope. That's your call to make. All I'm sayin' is figure out who you are really angry at, and honestly decide if it serves you. My guess? You're mad at yourself for "allowing yourself to be treated like this" or because "you feel like a fool" etc ... and I'm guessing this, because I felt both.
I was not a fool for loving my husband and standing by my vows even when he chose not to. I am not a fool for continuing to treat him with respect. I am not a fool for having a friendship with him even in D. I was not a fool for believing the best of him even when he didn't deserve it. I was not a fool for not understanding MLC and the beast that had overtaken my H. I was not a fool for not setting hard boundaries that I couldn't have enforced and probably would have made things worse.
I am making my choices based on the woman I am. Not on how he does, or does not, treat me. Not based on what he says or does or thinks.
Do yourself a favor TAMF, don't make decisions based on how you feel ... make them based on who you ARE. A loving, self-respecting, wonderful woman, mother and wife.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
... it's one of the stages. 
