Can I Save My Marriage Part 2

[John170]

Mr. Bond im going to go dark. She has some serious problems but i cant help her.

[John170]

i have several big investigations going on one of which is a homicide. i dont have time to worry with her anymore.

[MrBond]

"She has some serious problems but i cant help her."

While you're going dark you should start by stop saying things like this. She isn't the one with the serious problems. You are. Take care of issues while you aren't with her.

Good luck.

[John170]

dude she hasn't asked to see he child in three months she has issues. not saying i dont but she has serious problems.

[MrBond]

Didn't realize there was a child involved. You have custody right now?

[John170]

yes we have an 11 year old that dont wanna go down there and she doesn't try to see him.

[John170]

And it is tearing him apart all he wants is his mama and daddy back together and she cant see us working it out cause her feelings have changed. now yall know why i say the things i say

[MrBond]

Still doesn't change the approach though. You can't keep starting a fight to get her to want to come back. If you make things "safer" for her, then she might start to reconsider. That's just the way it is. It may not be fair, but that's what needs to happen.

Trust me I know what you're feeling. I feel bad for my kids who have to see us going through the things my W and I are.

[John170]

just dont know why she wont file. she says money but her parents would give her the money

[John170]

and ur right about going dark. when i did for a week she started asking her friends if they had talked to me.