Thanks Sandi. At this time I am not using the LRT. That approach seemed to be too much how I acted in the past. If I were to adopt that approach then I fear that it would be seen as "more of the same" behaviour.
So at this time, I continue to try and engage her after work to see how her day went, try and do nice things for her, run errands that make her life easier and give her whatever level of support I can. Maybe this is not the best approach???
If I stopped doing those things, I fear that she would interpret this as me going back to the way I used to be, very selfish and self-centered.
Like you say, each situation is unique and needs to have its own approach.
