Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Metal]

Yes, I have told her they are leaving. And she is pretty happy about it. You are right, she is resentful that I didn't do this sooner. I am hearing a lot of "too little, too late" right now, which I think is a good sign. Currently, her "plan" is to move downstairs into the in-law-suite, so that she can have her "separation" from me.. and I consider this better than the previous plan, of "get out of the marriage ASAP, and go live anywhere but here".

I do find it so interesting though, that we keep seeing each other. And actually Friday night, I gave her a nice backrub, and we watch tv together with the kids. Sleeping in different rooms right now. But, I am very thankful for the mixed messages. Little glimmers of hope. I'm writing a Journal (excel spreadsheet), to help keep my thoughts together. And I have a little column for "Positives", so that I can watch for small improvements.