Didn't you/don't you get tired of feeling like you are doing all of the work (all the reading, all the thinking, all of the proactive stuff)?
...when we perceive that our partners know we are hurting and still won't pick up the book or do their own real work..
I have Hold Me Tight. I'm about to get started. But I resent it.
Your feelings are normal, but remember as Silly points out that you too probably have some share of ownership of the problem, I know that I did. I also wanted to try to make things work, which is why I tried doing things by myself, having us go to a sex therapist, and also going to a weekend marriage workshop. I wanted to make sure that I tried just about everything, before ending the marriage.
We still struggle at times, but it has gotten better.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
